You're Welcome!
Last weekend, Husbandrinka and I visited friends in Pennsylvania, en famile. They (our friends, not our en famile) made a delicious barbecue, wined and dined us. I'm furious and don't see how I will ever forgive them.
Because when I was leaving, I thanked them for their hospitality, and the guy friend said "you're welcome".
You're Welcome?! What the fuck is that?
Doesn't everyone know that when you are thanked, the only acceptable response, with the exception of the preferred "no, thank YOU", is "it was entirely my pleasure"?
It's like some people have absolutely no manners and don't belong in society.
Husbandrinka doesn't seem to be as offended by this as I am, arguing that if they thank us for coming and we thank them for hosting, we'll be stuck in an endless loop of gratitude and life as we know it will cease to exist. And they say that women are hysterical.
So, I don't know. On the one hand, they're good friends and with my personality, I need all the friends I can get. But on the other hand, there is only so much abuse that I can put up with. And "you're welcome" is just hostile. One step short of dismemberment. And that's the last thing I need right now.
Because when I was leaving, I thanked them for their hospitality, and the guy friend said "you're welcome".
You're Welcome?! What the fuck is that?
Doesn't everyone know that when you are thanked, the only acceptable response, with the exception of the preferred "no, thank YOU", is "it was entirely my pleasure"?
It's like some people have absolutely no manners and don't belong in society.
Husbandrinka doesn't seem to be as offended by this as I am, arguing that if they thank us for coming and we thank them for hosting, we'll be stuck in an endless loop of gratitude and life as we know it will cease to exist. And they say that women are hysterical.
So, I don't know. On the one hand, they're good friends and with my personality, I need all the friends I can get. But on the other hand, there is only so much abuse that I can put up with. And "you're welcome" is just hostile. One step short of dismemberment. And that's the last thing I need right now.
Labels: Everyone is insane
posted by Marinka at
12:01 AM
35 Comments:
FIRST!!1! (snigger evilly)
Weren't you offended that they didn't ask you not to go yet, when you were ready to go?
You are one angry mother.
Good Lord, woman. Either you are a belligerent drunk, or they didn't "wine" you enough. Of course, you could always just shoot people on the spot when they piss you off like that. Works for me every time.
If this were Facebook, I'd hit the "like" button. You are awesome.
I'm with you. When my guest says 'thanks for having us' then I automatically say 'my pleasure!' 'come again soon!' and then I go finish all the bottles of wine we opened. The end.
At least they didn't say Hi and/or Hello. That would have been a catastrophe right there. Also, I am glad you came to Pennsylvania. We really know how to treat New Yorkers right.
And this is why Russians eat their young.
Ugh, yeah that would but the hell out of me...
At least they didn't say "Your welcome," because then not only would they have been incredibly rude, they would have been grammatically incorrect. And I think that's probably grounds for drawing and quartering.
You are incredibly brave and forgiving to have put up with as much as you have. I'm not sure I would have your strength!
i am totally with you - its like saying you're welcome to someone after sex. i mean, wasnt it intended to be for mutual enjoyment??
Seriously! How rude of him not to thank you for coming -- My friends always thank me for allowing them to host me. I say, "Oh, it's no problem. I really don't mind."
I am 64 years old. I might point out to you that for most of my life, the acceptable thing to say when someone thanks you is "you're welcome."
Damn, I never THOUGHT of it this way! You're totally right!
Assholes.
I really think next time you should be sure to leave post-it notes in all their rooms with that phrase on it - "it was entirely my pleasure". Not only will it leave them wondering WHAT was your pleasure, but they'll also wonder why post-it notes. No need to thank me, Marinka, you're welcome.
I'm with Nanny Goats in Panties... just shoot them.
Oh my goodness!
Good point... and now I'm thinking back to my son's recent birthday party, wondering if I said 'you're welcome' to anyone who said 'thank you' to me... I hope not!
OMG... I really hope not!
NO, I think this is more or less what happened:
"Thanks for inviting us!"
Me: "Thank you for coming and for the lovely present!"
Yeah, that's better. I'm sure I did not say 'you're welcome'.
How about "Any time"? That's my standard response.
Although, if they were to take me up on that and show up at 2 am on a Wednesday, I probably wouldn't answer the door, and may possibly turn the dogs loose on them.
Those fucks.
If they say "gesundheit" THAT'S IT!
They probably poisoned you.
hey, wait a minute......You're welcome means,
YOU are WELCOME. What could be nicer than that! They are telling you that YOU are WELCOME to come there any time, day or night. Don't you see?
Hey, you just have to accept it. Some people have no manners. I say, invite them back, and show those rude bastards how it's supposed to be done!
Whoa !
I need an explanation !
I'm not a native English speaker, so there are subtilities that I still don't get...
I think I understand what you mean, after having read your post and the comments, but I'm not sure.
Here's what I understood :
- "you're welcome" is said when people thank you for something YOU did for them
- When something was SHARED it's better to answer something like "thank YOU" back ?
If that's correct, then it will prevent me from being unintentionnally impolite next time I'm said "thank you" !
This comment may come out of the blue, but I've been reading here (and enjoying greatly) for some time now.
And this will surely end as an annoying comment since I'm gonna screw it all up by telling you : if "en famile" was a french expression, then it's "en famille".
Oh, and I almost forgot :
Happy anniversary !
(this one is too much, isn't it ?)
thank you for this magnificent post. and when you're ready, you thank me for this fantastic comment.
You got "you're welcomed'd"
Ughhhh...
Around here we wipe our butts with "you're welcome"
Peace - Rene
Pop a cap in their asses. That is just unacceptable.
Man.
What were they wanting you to do? Get down and grovel and kiss their asses for their hospitality?
REALLY.
How rude.
What a bunch of assholes! So glad my husband and I don't have any friends like that! Wait..we don't have any friends...Hmmm...
The "manners" in PA are so very different from those in NYC - it took me years after my transplant to get used to it.
I still get weird looks sometimes - and insist on believing that it's only because of geography-related social type stuff.
Some people have no clue about manners, or you might want to switch to decaf, or something. ;-)
At least they didn't say, "No problem." That bugs me.
After the comment pointers on Remedial Blog School I'm a little afraid to comment anymore. Thank you.
Cut his balls off. Then say, "You're welcome." You'll feel better.
gah - the gall! Doesn't he know it's a privilege to have you over? Doesn't he know he should be grateful you even showed up, considering you are a New Yorker? And they live even further away than Brooklyn? I mean, come on. "Thank you for coming all this way to visit" would have been more appropriate. Did he at least give you some cake to take home? Because I can forgive (and forget) almost anything if I get cake.
I'm so glad I decided to spend my lunch hour catching up on your blog. These laughs will literally get me through the rest of my day.
I'm just grateful they are still talking to me by the time I leave
Um, wow. Just wow.
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