tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post5381025793191798252..comments2023-08-15T06:09:11.024-04:00Comments on Motherhood in NYC: The One Where I Seek Your Advice And Offer Nothing In ReturnMarinkahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16489592695993949578noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-597127146865854932009-07-11T10:35:05.424-04:002009-07-11T10:35:05.424-04:00There's no such thing as a free lunch .. I wou...There's no such thing as a free lunch .. I wouldn't do it. But that's just me. I do post my kids photos on the internet tho, so you might think I'm already exploiting them. Although since I don't make any money off my blog, I guess I'm not very good at it :)Lucia's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09950289402846794360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-4982779647509723452009-07-10T22:09:04.549-04:002009-07-10T22:09:04.549-04:00I would do it. As long as there was no pressure on...I would do it. As long as there was no pressure on the kids, that they could quit anytime. And you have a solid 10% manager fee. I mean, you're not doing this just for giggles.CaraBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04614627167922944626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-84911877310509367082009-07-10T19:37:28.323-04:002009-07-10T19:37:28.323-04:00ask the kids. This whole thing could be moot after...ask the kids. This whole thing could be moot after that. If they agree, call me.bernthishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05905337047538489562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-4764098113930703072009-07-10T18:26:51.710-04:002009-07-10T18:26:51.710-04:00My husband is a big-time network executive. Peopl...My husband is a big-time network executive. People ask us all of the time when our children will be put into his shows, etc. His answer is always the same...<br />NO WAY. <br /><br />The pressure to perform (whether they like it or not), the time away from typical children's activities that enrich a childhood so much, the exposure to some really messed up people and situations all put this question decidedly in the NO column for us.<br /><br />There is also something a bit weird to us about having the children foot the bill in a family, even if it is just for part of it. A child's life is for playing, learning, hiking, climbing, etc. Not for paying their college tuition or bills around the house. Their responsibilities can come later in life.<br /><br />There is also SO much emphasis on looks and the exterior presentation. Is that something you really want to highlight in your child's life? There's no way around auditions and rejections. Are you prepared to explain that to your child and can your child handle the rejection?<br /><br />Very practically, I want to point out that it is possible for one of your childrens "careers" to take off and one to flounder. We had this happen to friends of ours and it was very hard for their son to understand why he had been hired for a time and was not being hired anymore. Since its based so much on looks, it can be hurtful. <br /><br />Anyway, wish you luck. I think its great that you're thinking through the situation. We have many friends who have decided to do this. We just see if another way.elizabethnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-41236998847893845612009-07-10T16:53:30.077-04:002009-07-10T16:53:30.077-04:00I think you should discuss it with your kids. Tel...I think you should discuss it with your kids. Tell them about all the purses and shoes Mommy could have! I'm sure they want their Mom to look good, right? <br /><br />No, seriously, it should be a family decision. Maybe your husband will come around if he sees the kids really want to try it (if they decide they do). Also remind him how much really super cool shoes and purses cost. And tell him you're planning a shopping spree - with or without the modeling money. That might help him come around.<br /><br />BTW - found your blog through "Pacing the Panic Room" and I'm so glad I did! I'm totally jealous that you live in NYC. I live in Idaho. With all the potatoes. It's pretty much no fun at all. Unless you really like potatoes.Amanda Gibsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02881513674229001249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-3334920145551626312009-07-10T14:51:44.497-04:002009-07-10T14:51:44.497-04:00I would so go for it! Besides the shoe and purse t...I would so go for it! Besides the shoe and purse thing, think of future college expenses, better to make the kids work their way through in advance, yes? Seriously, I don't see anything wrong with it if the kids want to try it. Who knows, they might become famous and then they can pay for the best nursing home ever for you when you're old!Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653903831722510380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-100602037337019432009-07-10T13:34:32.652-04:002009-07-10T13:34:32.652-04:00You are being featured on Five Star Friday — http:...You are being featured on Five Star Friday — http://www.fivestarfriday.com/2009/07/five-star-fridays-edition-62.htmlElan Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03023867307505601913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-38210433682448210402009-07-10T11:06:02.473-04:002009-07-10T11:06:02.473-04:00I think it's worth a conversation, and at that...I think it's worth a conversation, and at that point... see how you feel. And I'd totally contact the daughter, whether your father feels opposed or not. Your kids, your decision :) (easier said than done, of course....)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-80541713385600796042009-07-10T07:51:47.510-04:002009-07-10T07:51:47.510-04:00I don't know what Kathy Ireland would do, but ...I don't know what Kathy Ireland would do, but I might check it out. I wouldn't do it on a regular basis, but if the kids are ok with the occasional photoshoot, there are no weird demands (and my weird-o-meter is sensitive when it comes to stuff like this - no, my 8 year old will NOT have her eyebrows waxed!!), then why not. But it's not a carreer path I'd ever want my daughter to take, so to me "part-time" would already be too many assignments. One every few months, however, might be ok, with the above caveats. JMO!Elisa @ Globetrotting in Heelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13920820564549246339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-37884273271418142682009-07-10T06:21:39.356-04:002009-07-10T06:21:39.356-04:00No idea what to tell you.
My daughter would have ...No idea what to tell you.<br /><br />My daughter would have given her teeth to model (although, of course, that would have limited the takers to Appalachian and Ozark magazines).Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-78497391169294740442009-07-10T05:01:41.764-04:002009-07-10T05:01:41.764-04:00I'M BACK ONLINE AND COMMENTING WOOOHOOOO!!!!
...I'M BACK ONLINE AND COMMENTING WOOOHOOOO!!!!<br /><br />Wait. Was there an important question?♥ Brajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693196044262677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-85091634377534535152009-07-09T23:33:19.039-04:002009-07-09T23:33:19.039-04:00My kids were serious attention whores already so I...My kids were serious attention whores already so I didn't need to give them further encouragement by considering modeling. Someone at some point thought my daughter could model, but I'm glad I declined. I don't know if it would have harmed <i>her</i>, but it might have adversely affected our family life.Pop and Icehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09293232401852452071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-18841229017144150202009-07-09T22:55:46.184-04:002009-07-09T22:55:46.184-04:00very slippery slope here. My daughter was in a Cro...very slippery slope here. My daughter was in a Crocs shoot, it was local, we don't have head shots, it was small peanuts in the modeling world, but thought it would be fun for her. She was picked for a 1/2 day shoot.<br /><br />I had a very odd experience, I think you aren't going to know if you don't try it. I was very turned off by some children that were at the shoot and forced into it by their parents. Ugly stuff. Conclusion, I wouldn't let her model again. <br /><br />But purses are nice!EatPlayLovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01768078593549284605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-24465736758453955802009-07-09T20:32:17.952-04:002009-07-09T20:32:17.952-04:00I have a friend who did that as a kid and it paid ...I have a friend who did that as a kid and it paid for a lot of his college. I think if they have fun doing it and you don't expect them to become Miley Cyrus, it's not a bad thing.<br /><br />If you do expect them become Miley Cyrus, then you're going to have to learn the words to Achy Breaky Heart.Stimeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09685801693683588805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-84166297358340138452009-07-09T20:17:24.959-04:002009-07-09T20:17:24.959-04:00During the Depression, children had to work for $h...During the Depression, children had to work for $hoes and $tuff. How is this any different?Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04455637064686856773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-81214122396022179102009-07-09T17:43:07.264-04:002009-07-09T17:43:07.264-04:00Ha! Kathy Ireland would let them do it but then do...Ha! Kathy Ireland would let them do it but then donate all their proceeds to the Anne Frank Museum.Carolyn...Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17627167557544033888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-32132908745268715802009-07-09T16:19:21.586-04:002009-07-09T16:19:21.586-04:00Just found you from Frogs in My formula....after M...Just found you from Frogs in My formula....after MJ died I realized that I never want to be famous and I never want my kids to be famous. Being famous sucks ass.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-86893483942761999672009-07-09T16:18:27.577-04:002009-07-09T16:18:27.577-04:00Oops....that would be 8 wasted trips. Not ten.Oops....that would be 8 wasted trips. Not ten.Claremont First Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529859630615522678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-91605597277184052612009-07-09T16:18:00.728-04:002009-07-09T16:18:00.728-04:00If you have an instant "in" and your kid...If you have an instant "in" and your kids don't have to audition, they might actually enjoy it. My boys love being on set. They actually think working is "school". They love having their own teacher......the food is plentiful and everyone really goes out of their way to make your children feel pampered. However.....auditions can SUCK. The last 4 commericals my boys have auditioned for, they've also gotten callbacks. And then didn't get the job. So that is TEN wasted trips (and probably 15 hours) with NO compensation. Will it only be modelling, or commercials too?Claremont First Wardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02529859630615522678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-3946283879387452572009-07-09T15:16:25.240-04:002009-07-09T15:16:25.240-04:00We have a friend whose partner is a modeling casti...We have a friend whose partner is a modeling casting agent who keeps telling me to get headshots done of our daughter. (I'm too lazy/busy/bad a mother to have done it yet, but I do think about it sometimes.) Her take is this: don't bother with the small-time print ads if you can get commercials. Different casting agents deal with different media segments, so if Papa's friend works in TV commercial casting or in print ads for national campaigns, then you have an in for gigs that could net substantial money. According to our connection, national TV spot where your daughter is something simple like the kid in the carseat playing with the ball can net $10K by the time she gets paid for all the airings of the ad. Ditto with major national print media campaigns. Pay for these things is commensurate with exposure, so major national campaigns can mean big money. Of course, as with all get-rich-quick promises, the number of kids who get spots in those ads is minuscule compared to the number of child models out there. Still, if your contact really does casting for big-time campaigns, I think it is worth broaching it with your kids to see if they are interested, if for no other reason than that even ONE such gig would put an awful lot of money into a college fund to earn interest (*hah! if anything ever earns interest again in this economy*) for the next ten years until college starts.MommyTimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860003098383600806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-12467165256538753662009-07-09T14:47:58.803-04:002009-07-09T14:47:58.803-04:00Have you SEEN Toddlers & Tiaras? Not the same ...Have you SEEN Toddlers & Tiaras? Not the same thing, I know, but still close enough to send shivers down my spine. Those stage moms are NUTS.Crystalhttp://kidthings.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-52337392020351443942009-07-09T14:46:02.560-04:002009-07-09T14:46:02.560-04:00Go talk to Mrs. K (on my sidebar). Her child wante...Go talk to Mrs. K (on my sidebar). Her child wanted to model so Mrs. K, although a little hmmmm about the whole thing, gave in and the little girl ended up at a big modeling agency. Now go ask her the rest.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00361775888847203043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-31509387628466317442009-07-09T14:34:31.167-04:002009-07-09T14:34:31.167-04:00I would go for it, once. See how they do, if they ...I would go for it, once. See how they do, if they like it, and use the money (which probably isn't as much as everyone thinks) for something good like paying down debt or saving for their college. That's what I would do anyway, and if they hated it, then just quit.Halala Mamahttp://www.halalamama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-50657775500508283132009-07-09T14:20:50.625-04:002009-07-09T14:20:50.625-04:00I think if your kids are old enough to make seriou...I think if your kids are old enough to make serious decisions themselves and want to then you could go for it.<br />However, it will eat up their and your time a lot if you plan to chaperone them (and I think you should). There'll be hours of waiting for things to get fixed up, heavy makeup put on and then being asked to hold a pose till your muscles freeze and you would like to keel over (how do I know all this??!!!)<br /><br />I like the fact that you don't want to go behind your parents' back to do this! Good for you!! If they are really adamant, then why not just let it go!?Roshnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01107573625336456428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2455477065088022337.post-45914106006319111662009-07-09T14:17:58.221-04:002009-07-09T14:17:58.221-04:00I think Kathy is behind this whole thing.
Say che...I think Kathy is behind this whole thing.<br /><br />Say cheese Kidrinkas!Everyday Goddesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00486528297252417282noreply@blogger.com